Go on a lot of dates. Frankly speaking, during the two years of being single, I did date for about two times. Because I barely date, I put much pressure on myself and my date. Whether they want to move forward or not, I often feel depressed. Such negative feelings kept me away from dating for a very long time. Then I force myself to put it behind and date again. Then I found out it gets better. It turned out that the succeed of your date is only a matter of probability. One awful date does not mean you are not a dating material. The more you date, the more possible you are going to nail it and find the right one.
Dating and free hookup apps are great choice. You hate them? Okay, I know lots of people do. You might be obsessed with going to bars or coffee shop and meet people, but do you know they are single or not? If you try to ask them out and say turn you down, you are hurting your poor nerve. Because since you are already asking this question, I assume you are not so thick-skinned. Dating and hookup apps like hot or not are efficient ways to find date. It can help you to know more people around you whom you can never meet within your social circle. In real life, you are going to meet someone special for certain, but keep practicing until it really comes.
Ask people out. Although I spent lots of time on dating and hookup apps like wink, I eventually encouraged myself to ask people out on a date in real life. No colleagues. No exes. No one that would bring trouble. Only people whom I think cute. Some people said no, which helped me how to handle rejection properly. While some said yes and we had a great date, even though it didn’t last long. But I did it and it helped me.
Arrange dates near your house. Listen, I know it sounds lazy, but when you first start to date, you should better go to places where you feel the most comfortable. Meetup in the bar next to your company. A local restaurant, or a pizza shop near your house. When you are familiar with the environment, you will feel more in control and comfortable. You can perform better and be yourself. If it goes well, you can also invite them to your house.
